Tuesday, February 1, 2011


Ok I have to confess...Today may not be the best day to write about my kids. We are having yet another snow day that turned out to be a Non-snow day. They should've gone to school! Oh well...Spring will be here soon enough! My hubby and I had been married for 2 years when I became pregnant the first time. I was sooo excited! I had waited my whole life for this moment! I was about 5 weeks along when I woke up one Sunday morning with cramps and when I went to the bathroom I passed a Clot. I was devestated.  We didn't really talk about it...and life went on. Another year went by and then I became pregnant a 2nd time. I was cautiously optimistic. One month went by..another month went by...Then toward the end of the 3rd month I started having cramps and alittle bleeding.  I had heard this could be normal in some woman as the uterus expands as the baby grows. I remember going to the mall that day and not feeling too well. I came home and made spaghetti for supper. I ate supper and watched tv before going to bed. I woke up around 1am with severe pain that felt like someone was stabbing me in my stomach. I thought this isn't right...Not again!!!
     I woke My hubby and told him how bad it was! He was scared for me and drove like a maniac down route 11 to the hospital ER. By that time I was screaming and wrenching in pain. They took me back and ran some tests and did a ultrasound. They discovered I had a Tubal pregnancy and my left tube was about to burst! If I had waited just an hr longer it would've burst and I could've died. I just remember thinking this isn't happening. It all happened so fast...before I knew it I was going to sleep and when I woke up I discovered they had to take my tube out. The embryo had grown too big and it was too dangerous so they took the tube.  I was devastated once again!!! I went home and it took about 2 weeks to heal physically.  Little did I know it would take the rest of my life to heal emotionally.  I don't know that I will ever recover from those losses. I take comfort in knowing that I will see my babies in Heaven some day...God has promised me that!
     As time went on we continued with Foster Parenting and had several kids in our home.  We took a break for about 1 1/2 yrs and then decided to change agencies.  Our second client we got with our new agency was our son Christopher.  He was 5 yrs old and in Hershey Med Child Psyche unit. He had been tossed around in Foster homes for four months and nobody could handle him.  He was a bright eyed,  blond haired,  energetic little boy.  We instantly fell in love with him and decided we would take him home.  He was diagnosed with ADHD, Autism Spectrum disorder and neglect.  He had the sweetest spirit and I quickly fell in love. Little did I know the challenges and trials that would follow. We enrolled Chris in early intervention at the IU Preschool. He loved riding the bus to school and had wonderful teachers and staff. We were told when we got Chris that he was retarded and would never read or write. That's all we needed to hear and the adventure began...The adventure to prove them wrong...  and that's what we did!!!!The following year Chris enrolled in Kindergarten and was assigned to a full-time Learning support class.  His teacher Mrs.Merrill was the most important factor in his progress in school and the learning process. I give her all the credit for helping Chris to become the student he did. Before long he was reading and writing and talking non-stop. Oh yeah when we got Chris he only spoke 5 words, wasn't potty trained and  every man he saw was Daddy.  By First grade he was reading fluently,Speaking and understanding. We were sooo pleased with his progress. He had sensory therapy to address some sensory issues, had OT and hearing support because we also found out he is completely deaf in his right ear.  The next three years would be the calmest and best of our time with Chris. On February 14, 2005 We adopted Christopher and he became Christopher Carver Magee. Finally I had a child...I was a Mother....To be continued....